Recently, the difference between "scolding" and "getting angry" has often been discussed.
I understand that it's better to scold than to get angry, but
Ultimately, I found myself thinking, "Is it all about the parents' perspective?" or "From an outsider's perspective, it looks like they're angry, but maybe it's okay if the parents believe they're just scolding."
However, as a parent, I really wanted to know [how to communicate/think in a way that doesn't get emotional and doesn't make the child dislike it]. So, after much searching, as of September 20, 2024,
I've arrived at what I believe is the most reasonable interpretation, which I'll record here as a memo.
I would appreciate it if you could view this merely as one piece of information for reference.
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■ Definition and Importance of Discipline
In my studies of various parenting resources and events, I define discipline as
"fostering habits of action and thought that enable a child to become independent and live a rich life in society."
■ Approach to Discipline
I believe that discipline is not merely about imposing social manners, but about education that leads to a child's future emotional, behavioral, and mental well-being.
It is important not to be too caught up in the "ideal child image," but to consider what is "normal" according to each family's situation.
■ 【For children under 3】 Key points of discipline
- Parents clearly define household standards for daily habits.
- Improve the environment to prevent bad habits that go against the daily habit standards.
- Immediately notice and praise desirable behavior in children.
- For undesirable behavior, guard against it so the same behavior cannot occur.
- Endure behaviors arising from a child's instincts as much as possible, and provide an appropriate environment.
■ Fundamentals of Discipline
The most basic method of discipline is for parents to adhere to household standards for daily habits,
and to consistently demonstrate this by example over time.
■ What parents should be mindful of daily
- Clearly define the household standards for basic daily habits.
- Do not think of housework as "boring tasks," but as "precious time to guide your child to independence," and both parents should continue to lead by example.
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I've listed interpretations that I found personally convincing.
There's a huge gap between knowing and being able to do, but
When I get frustrated in daily life (I get frustrated with meals, lol),
I try to keep in mind my preferred interpretations/ways of thinking to positively adjust my mindset.
This is incredibly challenging, and I hope to continue gathering information and setting an example.
Well, I think I'll go play with my daughter now.
See you.