Hello, this is a parenting blog by a married couple.
Even before the baby was born, I loved children and babies and was excited, but my wife handled all the preparations 🤣 lol.
I'll be documenting what I prepared, discussed, and did with my wife during her pregnancy.
I don't know if it's because I did what's written here, but neither of us experienced mental instability before or after birth, and both mother and child have been healthy for the past three months.
※The information provided here is just an example, so please use it as a reference.
■Overview
・The basics of childbirth preparation are to "learn more about pregnant women."
・Mindset as a father: Basically, the mother is more experienced.
■Contents
・The basics of childbirth preparation are to "learn more about pregnant women."
→As I wrote, biologically, men have lower empathy than women, and although they can pretend to understand, they can't truly grasp it deeply.
Given this, please take an interest in the changes in your wife's physical condition, as she is your precious life partner.
It's incredibly fascinating, and every piece of information feels like the mystery of life.
I read "A Husband's Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth," became interested, and searched extensively online.
Even with that information, I'm still far behind my wife.
It was extremely important to recognize that I was behind and to adopt a proactive attitude that would make my wife want to teach me.
Then, even if I searched and understood something as "this is how it is," my wife would teach me about her actual condition and symptoms, which could be different, one by one.
When that happens, a very strong cooperative relationship between husband and wife for childbirth can be built before the stable period.
More than words, convey "Thank you for getting pregnant. I'm excited for our child" through your actions.
The standard for what conveys this varies from person to person, so please do your best 😆
I may be writing this boastfully, but for now, my wife relies on me.
・Mindset as a father: Basically, the mother is more experienced.
→From the time of pregnancy, your wife is a mother.
It's frustrating, but husbands haven't fully become fathers yet.
That's why, once the baby is born, it's a wonderful husband who plans to have more physical contact (feeding, burping, changing diapers, holding, warm towels, etc.) with their child than their wife.
Because, after all, you can't compete with a mother. It's frustrating, but true.
That's why you should ensure the father has more physical contact.
Even so, the childcare balance will likely become [Mother 70%: Father 30%].
That's not just due to the powerful weapon of "maternal instinct," but mothers are amazing.
They experience childbirth, which is as tough as being in a car accident, and then live through sleepless nights while struggling to process emotions and recover physically.
Even after experiencing that, they feel, "I'm glad I gave birth," and "It would be nice to have another if fate allows."
Compared to such women, men are behind when it comes to family matters.
That's why, even if you think, "I want to rest a bit after work," try to increase your physical contact when you can.
When your child looks at you and smiles, your fatigue might just disappear.
So, enjoy your fun life with your baby.